Rest Easy My Friend

by jeffraven Email

I finally got a chance to write. As some of you know, and many of you do not know, my friend David passed away Friday morning. His condition had not improved since his return to the hospital from the nursing home. Thursday, his aunt wanted to discuss the doctor's options to put a trache in to ease his breathing, but this was no guarantee that it would help Dave get healthier. David said he did not want a trache, and in fact wanted the breathing tube removed. He was in such pain, and he wanted it out. I got to visit him that Thursday, not knowing any of this, but once his aunt had told me, I knew this was it. Removing the breathing tube would essentially end David's life here on Earth.

I talked to Dave for a bit- though he couldn't respond but in a few feeble written phrases- and I told him to be humble before God. This life is a temporary one, and it is nothing compared to eternity. I couldn't think of anything else to say.

They decided to take the breathing tube out Friday morning. I couldn't watch such a thing, so I went to class. I had to keep my mind on other things. I didn't get word of how it went until just before failing my chemistry exam. It was quick and quiet. I still went to work after that. I didn't know what to feel then and I still don't know what to feel now.

David W. Miller, Jr was my friend. He was never perfect and he certainly had a different view on life, but it was very appreciated and I'll miss him greatly. My fondest memories will be the video games we played, and the places we visited here in Buffalo.

A friend of mine at work said that Dave got to do something that most of us never have much choice. I hope it was the right one, and when it comes time for me to face the music, I'll see Dave once again as I remember him.

5 comments

Comment from: Jason [Visitor] Email
He will be missed by all his friends...those near and those far. I wish I was able to get out to visit him one last time. My thoughts will be of him for a long time.
05/04/09 @ 03:00
Comment from: Goober King [Visitor]
It's a good thing he had you to take care of him and keep his spirits up. I'm sure he appreciated everything you did for him.

After a rough life, his suffering is at an end. I'm glad you were there to make things better for him. RIP Dave...
05/04/09 @ 07:40
Comment from: Arche [Visitor]
I'm so sorry to hear about that Brian, but it is encouraging that you remain as positive as you can about it. Your other friends are totally right in that Dave was extremely lucky to have such a thoughtful and caring friend, and we are lucky as well to have you as our friend. If you need to talk or anything please don't hesitate to call me or contact me. ((big bear hugs)) :)
05/04/09 @ 13:18
Comment from: Jason Wesolowski [Visitor]
Total suckage! Hopefully he's in a better place now...

RIP Dave...

05/06/09 @ 00:14
Comment from: Kandi [Visitor]
It is never easy when a loved one leaves this life. I am thankful that Dave was able to enrich your life and that you were able to enrich his. I am thankful that you were able to bring him out for Christmas and that we, perhaps, were able to make the holiday a little brighter for him. Although I am sorry for the pain his passing causes you & Melissa and the life experiences that he missed out on, I am grateful that the suffering he experienced in this life has come to an end.
05/08/09 @ 10:47

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